Either/or

Today a student reminded me that Oscar Wilde once said “Each man kills the thing he loves.” 

But then again Charles Bukowski said “Find what you love and let it kill you.” 

So either it kills you or you kill it? 

Either you’re the murderer or the murdered? 

I’m not a fan of binaries and thought that separates villain/victim, masculine/feminine, good/bad, right/wrong, white/black, etc… one way or the other. 

So maybe it’s a mix. Maybe it kills you as you kill it. Simultaneously, all at once.